How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

“Do this and you will be welcome anywhere”

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”

“Ask questions to other people, questions that they will enjoy answering”

I will apply this new rule by becoming friends and influence them by approaching in a positive attitude. When you talk to a person always make sure you focus only on that particular individual and don’t get distracted by anything else.  Another way I would apply this new rule is that you don’t have to talk about yourself maybe something that they might like and maybe something that is in common between you and that person. Another important thing that will help you to build a genuine interest in others is to be willing to step into their shoes and look at the world through their eyes. Giving eye contact is very important if you are trying to become friends with someone or when you try to influence someone, they might think that you are lying because your eyes are wondering around not looking seriously at that person.  Give it your undivided attention, your voice, eyes, mind and body must be as one. The Simple Way to Make a Good Impression.

Rule 2: Smile

“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you”. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”

“It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”  

I am already applying this method on myself because when I approach someone 

rule 3: Remember names 

"A man's name is to the sweetest and most important sound in any language" 

"If you don't remember names,you are headed to trouble"

i honestly don't always apply this method but i would do so. i sometimes forget peoples name and i know thats a bad thing because then it kind of looks like you didn't pay attention to them. a way that you wont forget someones name is by repeating it over and over in your head. also, when the conversation is over and you saying the last goodbyes say bye and whatever there name is.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems. "

i apply this method to myself , i am a very good person to communicate with. i can make a conversation of something small.Also, when i use this method i don't necessarily just talk about myself because not everyone is going to be interested in something i say so i talk about what we share in 

1. stay focus

2. listen closely

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Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.

"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk about  the things he treasures most."  

REFLECTION: WHAT I LEARNED ABOUT THIS SIX WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU WERE THAT WHEN YOU ARE GOING TO TALK TO SOMEONE YOU DONT TALK ABOUT YOUR INTEREST NOR THERE BUT WHAT YOU GUYS SHARE AND LIKE IN COMMON. ALSO WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT YOURSELF THE ONLY THINK THAT YOU MAKE ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON IS THAT YOU THOUGHTS AND WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO SAY IS NOT VALUED