Three Fundamental
Techniques in Handling People
1.
Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain
“If you want to gather honey, don’t
kick over the beehive”
Treat people as you would want to be treated. For
example, if you want someone to be nice to you, then be nice to them. Most of
the time people will react the same way as you approach them. It’s can
also mean that if you are mean to others they will react the same way you act. It’s
like when you say I heard that you were talking about me and they have been
your friend for a while it’s like how do you expect them to come at you like. You
can’t tell what to do all you can do is give good advice. Don’t talk about no one’s
past or what they are going through if you never been through where they have. It’s
not right to assume or talk about someone you don’t even know like that. If someone
asked for favors don’t complain or anything just politely say yes or no and say
a reason why you said yes or no don’t just be rude and say an upsetting
comment. You can’t be mean to no one if you aren’t ready for someone to treat
you bad.
2.
Give honest and sincere appreciation
“The
big secret in dealing with people”
You should always be
honest with someone because you wouldn’t want them to lie to you. If you see
there doing something that can give them bad consequences tell them if they don’t
listen it’s up to them. Just the way you would want honesty, it should be the
same towards them. Be very sincere with
people and appreciate what they do for you and how they take some time and
spend it with you. That’s why when you have a friend that is having trouble go
ahead and help them and show them that you sincerely appreciate what they do
for you. Being honest with people is the key to deal with people you can’t be
around talking to people and lying about what you like and dislike about them. I
have always applied this in my life style because I believe that honesty is the
key to friendships. It is also a base to have a healthy relationship with a
partner or just a friendship.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want
"He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."
"He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."
Reflection
What
I learned from the Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People is “don’t criticize,
condemn, or complain “which means that you should treat people the way you want
to be treated. For example if you want
someone to come at you with a good attitude you have to do the same respect someone
else like you want to be respected. It can
also mean that do not go negative. People just don’t want to hear it.
The second
fundamental technique called “give honest and sincere appreciation” means you should
always be honest with someone because you wouldn’t want them to lie to you. If
you see there doing something that can give them bad consequences tell them if
they don’t listen it’s up to them. The keyword is sincere. If you’re not being sincere,
people will know it. Try to find something to appreciate in all of the people
that you meet and know. The last fundamental that I was introduced to was, arouse in
the other person an eager want. What that means is that it means that you want
to get people motivated, keep them motivated, and spur them on.
